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JONAH'S HEALTH HISTORY

Thursday, March 21, 2019

3-2-1 CELEBRATE!


"3-21 World Down Syndrome Day!
We have 3 copies of chromosome 21 
instead of just 2. 
It's what makes us US.
But we are still a lot like YOU!
Ben and Jonah"

The boys wore their "3-21 Brother" t-shirts to school today and are handing out the 
above note to their friends.

We are so blessed as a family to have 
so much to celebrate today!







Old family picture from Christmas 2017, but I like these tshirts!

 

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

DIFFICULT DECISION


Jonah was diagnosed with Grave's disease (hyPERthyroid) in fall of 2017.  For the past 18 months, we have been trying to bring his thyroid DOWN to a normal level by using medication.  The reason hyPERthyroidism must be treated is because of the effects it can have on a child:

  • difficulty gaining weight
  • fast or irregular heartbeat
  • high blood pressure
  • nervousness and trouble concentrating
  • irritability
  • bulging eyes
  • diarrhea
  • poor school performance
For Jonah, he is experiencing problems with growth and trouble concentrating.  So far, his heart and blood pressure have not been negatively affected.

The first line of medication, methimazole, successfully controlled Jonah's thyroid but brought Jonah's WBC count down. Low WBC makes a kiddo very susceptible to infection.  Jonah did actually get strep 2x while on the methimazole. 

Because of this, Jonah had to be switched to the 2nd line of medication, propylthiouracil (PTU).  PTU is not the preferred medication, especially for kids, because it has a high chance of causing liver damage.  For this reason, PTU is not recommended to be used for longer than 2 years.

The PTU, while helping the thyroid, also affected Jonah's WBC so that is why we had to take him off the PTU.    

The hope when treating hyPERthyroidism with medication is that once levels are back to normal, sometimes the body starts to self regulate and the thyroid levels can remain in normal range without medication. 

This was our hope for Jonah, but it did not happen.  Without the medication, his levels go back up.  We can't let him be hyPER for too long because then there is the risk of heart and growth issues, not to mention the continued problem with focusing and concentration. 

So because there are no other medications available to lower his thyroid, and his body is not correcting on its own, Jonah's endocrinologist told us that we must now either use radioactive iodine to destroy Jonah's thyroid or have it surgically removed.  

After destroying or removing Jonah's thyroid, he will then be hyPO or low thyroid and will need to be on a supplement for the rest of his life.  However, this medication has few side effects and is relatively easy to manage so we aren't as concerned about Jonah being hyPO as hyPER.

The difficult decision for us was whether Jonah should have the radioactive iodine treatment or the surgery.  We are choosing to have surgery for Jonah for the following reasons:

1. Jonah is only 8 years old, which is pretty young to have the radioactive treatment.
2. The radioactive iodine is in pill form.  Some facilities use a liquid form, but our Children's Hospital of WI uses only the pill form.  This means Jonah would have to be able to swallow a tylenol gel cap size pill.  Jonah doesn't swallow pills. Even if we could get him to swallow, there would be no guarantee he would do it on demand in the very strict environment he would be in when being administered this treatment.  
3. For 3 days after the treatment, we would have to stay a foot away from Jonah- no hugging etc.  Jonah is a very impulsive and affectionate little fellow.  It would be very hard to keep him away from us plus it would be hard to explain to him why he wasn't allowed near us.  
4. For 7 days, Jonah would have to stay home and be around as few people as possible.  Again, Jonah's impulsiveness would make it hard to keep him away from us (especially his sidekick Ben, plus it would be hard to keep Ben away from Jonah).  
5. For 7 days, Jonah would have to regularly be clearing out his system to make sure the radioactive waste is leaving his body.  Jonah has constipation issues.  Even with Miralax, he often isn't regular on a daily basis.  It would be hard for us to guarantee that he would be able to clear each day, and that would be not good for his GI system to be exposed to the radiation.  
6. It sometimes takes weeks for the thyroid to be fully destroyed.  Surgery is immediate.  

So for those reasons, even though there are risks with this surgery (regular surgery risks along with very slim chance of possible damage to vocal chord nerves), we have decided to have Jonah's thyroid removed.  It's a decision that has to based on the individual situation.  There is no right and wrong answer that applies to everyone. 

It was a difficult decision, but almost wasn't a decision, because the doctors agreed with us that the radioactive treatment just won't be feasible for our Jonah.

His surgery is scheduled for May 7th.   


Jonah dressing up for swimming and basketball.


Jonah had is annual IEP meeting this week.  The reason I insert this in the middle of this post about Jonah's hyPERthyroidism is because as mentioned above, Jonah is having a very hard time focusing and concentrating at school.  We believe Jonah's over-active thyroid is some of the reason for this trouble. 

Because of Jonah's difficulty with staying focused, Jonah is facing some academic challenges.  Besides Jonah having a very hard time focusing and staying on task, the other challenge is the teachers feel like Jonah masters a skill for a bit, then loses that skill and has to relearn it.  His teachers feel like this might be due to a combination of 3 things: 1. his difficulty focusing, 2. if Jonah makes a gain in one area, he regresses in another, and 3. Jonah may not be able to retain as much information as we hope.

However, a lot of these concerns we discussed at the IEP this week are sort of on hold until after Jonah's surgery.  We are hoping that by getting his Grave's disease under control, Jonah will improve his focus and ability to stay on task.  Hopefully that will have a ripple effect for what Jonah can retain and remember.  We are hoping!  

We are very grateful and appreciative that Jonah's teachers and therapists are so patient and willing to help Jonah in every way possible.  We have a great team!


Going out for a Friday fish fry 
(and cheeseburgers and hot dogs!)


Saturday, March 16, 2019

WE STILL DO!


THEN: 3-12-94

NOW: 3-15-19

Fun dinner out last night, without kids!


Very glad our marriage is lasting 
longer than some of our appliances :)
In fact, we just found out this week that our dishwasher needs a $300 repair. 



All kidding aside, I think 1 Corinthians 13 best explains why we made it 25 years 
and planning on another 25: 
God's love for us and 
God helping us love each other no matter what.  

Thank you Andrew for living out 1 Corinthians 13 towards me these past 25 years.  I am very blessed!

Oh, and a healthy sense of humor 
certainly helps a marriage!

And now just some random photos from the past couple of weeks:

Boys' teacher sets up water table in their classroom


 Jonah getting ready to swim 
and play basketball today.  

Our dog showing school spirit for Stephen's school

Thursday, March 7, 2019

JAW DROP!

After 2 snow cancellations, parent-teacher conferences finally happened for the boys.

What a jaw-dropping experience!  In a good way!

The report on Ben's progress at school could not have been better.  His teachers all commented on how appropriately Ben acts (most of the time), how bright and hard-working he is (most of the time), and how sweet and funny he is (most of the time).  

Now we know Ben can be like this, but we also know that Ben can often present mad, defiant, and rude.  Ben puts up a lot of defensive barriers before he feels comfortable enough to show his sweet side.  

So needless to say, Andrew and I were very pleasantly surprised to hear that Ben is presenting so positively at school!  It was a joy to hear!  Hence the jaw dropping experience...in a good way!

This morning, I was reminded to always look how far we have come with Ben.  While I was working on the computer, Ben started playing with the Batman toys.  He played/imagined for over 45 minutes!  This is amazing because when we first brought Ben home, he did not know how to play with toys.  He did not know how to imagine.  He often would sit in corners and stim- shaking an object in front of his face.  Now this little boy is PLAYING!  This little boy is IMAGINING!  What a joy to see that kind of progress.

So this video might seem boring and uneventful to you, but I find it fascinating!   It's Ben at play:




Isn't he cute- and happy?  Thank you Lord for breaking down those walls bit by bit!







P.S. More on Jonah's conference later...


Wednesday, March 6, 2019

BE MY VOICE

I apologize this isn't the best photo, 
but the message is precious. 

Here is Psalm 139:13-16 which is in the background of the photo:

"For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be."



Convicting?
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Take a moment today to let our leaders know how you feel about the sanctity of life.











UPDATE



With 2 boys with Down syndrome, we definitely understand (and live) the phrase, "It's a marathon, not a sprint."  

Most things with the boys happen later than to be expected and take longer to learn.  Our paraphrase of the popular "marathon vs. sprint" saying would be: Our boys get there, they just take a more scenic route :)

The thing about hard-earned achievements is this: the joy and pride you feel once the task is accomplished seems so much sweeter and valuable than when you accomplish something without much effort.  When our boys "get something", it's exciting and heartwarming to watch them succeed!  

My mom rehabbing from her stroke is definitely a marathon, not a sprint.  She is making small but significant progress, and I am super proud of her hard work and my dad's unwavering support and encouragement for her!  What a blessing to watch the two of them work hard each and every day.




Thursday, February 14, 2019

2019: SO FAR NOT GOING AS PLANNED


This saying could not be more true 
for us so far this new year.

On January 15th, my mother suffered a massive stroke.  My mom is 85 years old.  The past few years, she has had some health scares, but she has always bounced back.  As much as we knew a major health issue could happen, it was something I sort of lived in the land of denial about.  I had other plans for my time with both of my parents.

My mom is an amazing person.  She is strong and a fighter.  So is my dad who has been by her side non-stop since the stroke happened.  Their tenacity and strength has been a source of inspiration to many as they both work to make my mom healthy again.  Their trust in the Lord and His comfort and plan for their lives has been a witness to many during the lengthy hospital stay.

My mom is currently working to get to a rehab facility to see what she can regain from what she lost from the stroke.  If she can stay healthy, I think she will make some gains because she is so determined to work hard and try her best.

Having a family crisis like this, when you have 2 little boys with special needs, just adds some interesting layers to life.  I have not been home as much as I usually am.  When I am home, I admit I am distracted.  I am operating at getting the bare minimum done with housework, meal prep, book work, and unfortunately even with my activities with the boys.  

How this affects the boys differs because they have such different personalities and approaches to life.  

Ben has pretty much rolled with it.  If anything, I have felt closer to Ben these past few weeks.  Maybe the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is working in my favor, haha.  

Jonah has regressed in his bathrooming success- we were at the point of staying dry for 2-3 hour stretches!  Now we are having more accidents again.  Jonah has also been having impulse control issues, however, Jonah's HYPER thyroid has not been under control for the past months, so that is definitely another factor in his behavior issues.  

Just a lot of stuff going on.  

I have to be honest.  Life with children with special needs is  usually very doable for me.  However, when there a bump in the road, it sometimes can be overwhelming for a period because everything can get off kilter pretty easily and pretty quickly.  It just requires me to be patient and put my trust in the Lord into over gear until we get on solid footing again.

So 2019 did not start out how I expected it to- life never does really go as we expect, does it?  Ben's amazing ability to roll with things is a gift I think would be helpful for all of us.  

Who would have thought our little Lithuanian wonder would have the secret to life?  God certainly uses both our boys to teach me lots of life lessons.  I guess life never ceases to amaze me either...

And now some pictures to share so far from 2019:



Abigail hanging out with our 
2 valuable sources of wisdom :)
Ben, top photo.  Jonah, bottom photo.




Beautiful winter day hike by Lake Michigan with Stephen and our dog Tucker




Abigail travels to Mexico over Christmas break with her Bio-Medical Engineering group



Lydia's amazing art project



After hardly any snow for the month of December, we now have snow!  The boys love playing outside!  Good way to get out some energy!



Since the boys have been unable to see Grandma (or Grandpa) since the stroke, we made this video for them.  They miss "Bebop"- their word for Grandma and Grandpa.