The reason this blog is called “His Pleasant Place” is because of Psalm 16: 5-6. It is our hearts’ desire that our home would be Ben/Ryan’s “pleasant place”.
Thursday, January 28, 2021
ICE FISHING FUN and AN UPDATE
Friday, January 8, 2021
ROUGH END TO A ROUGH YEAR
The end of our year 2020 can be described in one word: COVID.
ROUGH:
For the 6 of us who live in the house, only 3 of us got COVID: myself, Andrew and Stephen. We were very blessed that all 3 of our cases were mild.
In some ways it is a miracle that the other 3, Lydia, Ben, and Jonah, did not also get COVID. On the other hand, we still have the worry going forward for the next few months that they are still able to get COVID.
However, we are not quite as scared of them getting it considering they lived 24/7 with 3 positive cases and did not catch. Perhaps those 3 are very resilient or had asymptomatic cases. We are especially surprised that our little boys did not get sick. Remember, Jonah's doctors did feel Jonah would be considered a high risk for a more serious case of COVID and yet so far, he has sailed through quite healthy. Not at all what we expected.
The rough part of us 3 getting COVID was the logistical nightmare that happens in a big family when you have to isolate and quarantine from each other. In the end, it was about a 3 week period of figuring out who could be with who.
Our particular situation was a bit more complicated because of our 2 boys having special needs so they require constant care and supervision. It's kind of hard as a parent to just completely step back and not be part of their daily activities. Then it got even more complicated because Jonah currently has his suprapubic catheter which requires careful daily attention and care. Again, not just something a parent can walk away from.
Fortunately, we are blessed with amazing older kids who really stepped in and cared for our boys while Andrew and I had to be isolated in the basement. They both took a crash course in catheter care and handled that like pros also. Our Lydia also took on the cooking responsibilities for all 6 of us which was quite a bit a work for her to do. And our Abigail who lives 6 hours away was our faithful cheerleader encouraging us we would make it through this difficult time.
The other issue we had to deal with because of our COVID was Jonah's 12-17 surgery (to replace stent and catheter tube) had to be postponed 6 weeks because of Jonah's direct exposure to us. Fortunately, his urologist assured us that with Jonah being on a daily antibiotic to prevent staph infections in the catheter tube, he wasn't too concerned about the delay.
I would say the most difficult part for me of COVID was the anxiety I experienced trying to deal with all of the above. It was a rough 10 days.
ROUGHER:
Another aspect of our COVID experience was both of my elderly parents also caught COVID and had to be hospitalized. Obviously we were very concerned about them and felt very helpless since we could only get updates on them by phoning their nurses.
The miracle was that my mom, despite her complications from her stroke in 2019, had a pretty mild case of COVID. She only needed to be in the hospital 5 days and only required 2 ltrs of oxygen for only first 2 days of her stay.
ROUGHEST:
My dad also got COVID. However, he had to be hospitalized for 18 days because of low oxygen levels.
Our whole family felt so bad for him being all alone in that hospital room dealing with the anxiety of what COVID can do to a person as well his worry over being away from our mom. It was a hard 2 weeks waiting for him to heal enough for the doctors to let him come home.
We are so grateful and happy and relieved that he is now back home with our mom. Lots of prayers were answered!
So 2020 has certainly promised to go down as a very memorable year for many of us. What a strange and scary turn of events starting last March. It's been a roller coaster ride for sure.
On a side note, the question that we get asked often is "How did we get COVID?" The answer is I'm not absolutely sure because we were soooo careful and cautious all these months. We wore masks and we really tried to stay home as much as possible.
Despite us getting COVID even though we were very careful, I still believe wearing masks and staying home as much as possible can slow/prevent the spread. Just my personal opinion, especially after seeing my Dad go through such an ordeal with his COVID.
Now for some photos from my COVID isolation in our basement for 10 days. Quite the adventure!
In the middle of all our COVID craziness, our Lydia got her first college acceptance letter. Right now, this college is sort of her first choice, but she wants to see if other options come through before she officially decides. Exciting for her!
Sunday, November 29, 2020
FEELING LIKE A GROWN UP!
Tuesday, November 24, 2020
IT KEEPS GETTING WEIRDER!
Thursday, November 19, 2020
SO STINKIN' CUTE!
Monday, November 16, 2020
(a very unscientific) PERSONALITY QUIZ
MOVIE CHARACTERS THE BOYS LOVE:
MOVIE: ALADDIN
Ben: Jafar
Jonah: Genie, Aladdin, or Abu
MOVIE: MUPPET MOVIE
Ben: Animal
Jonah: Scooter, Walter, or Fozzie
MOVIE: LION KING
Ben: Scar
Jonah: Simba or "Hakuna Matata" characters- "No worries"
MOVIE: SLEEPING BEAUTY
BEN: Malificent
JONAH: 3 Fairies or Prince
MOVIE: SNOW WHITE
BEN: Mean queen
JONAH: Dwarfs or Prince
MOVIE: BEAUTY & THE BEAST
BEN: Gaston or the Beast when he's mean
Jonah: Chip
I could continue with more movies, but I'm thinking you are seeing the same pattern I am seeing.
Pretty revealing.
Should I be concerned that Ben always identifies with the bad guy?
Or since I have enough to worry about in life, I'm just going to frame these results as Ben will be the fierce protector of the more innocent and naive Jonah.
The perfect pair.
They are each other's ying and yang.
Wednesday, November 11, 2020
SOME GREAT RESOURCES
Hard to believe I've been "homeschooling" the boys since March 2020!
Something I thought I would never do. Not because I don't agree with homeschooling. I do think it can be a very valuable and worthwhile experience. We home schooled our 3 older kids during their middle school years, and we loved it. However, with the boys both having special needs, I just figured home schooling them would be way above my pay grade. And not beneficial to them because school offers them access to so much specialized and adaptive learning.
Well, COVID had different ideas than me so that is why the boys are home with me.
So over the past months, I have found some really cool resources that have helped us in our home school experience.
1. The following math manipulative is incredible! I think it really has helped the boys learn the concept of counting on when doing addition.
Click HERE for Amazon link to this MATH MANIPULATIVE
2. This 100's board has been very helpful for the boys in learning how to rote count by 1's and 10's. Instead of just looking at a paper 100's chart, this board lets them feel, touch, and actually place the numbers as they count. Just sensory/tactile way to reinforce what we are learning.
Click HERE for Amazon link to this HUNDREDS BOARD
3. IXL is an website that we use daily. We use the free version which means we only get 10 questions a day. However, that works perfectly for us. Currently we are doing Preschool Language Arts: Reading Strategies and Vocabulary. We bring the website up on our Ipad so the boys can use the touchscreen to select their answers.
Click HERE to visit IXL website
4. Boom Cards- our speech therapist has provided us with a link to her cards, but you can also access quite a few of the resources for free. A great interactive tool we use to work on speech. We do this on our Ipad.
Click HERE for link to Boom Card website
5. TouchMath App- one of the math curriculums our boys use is Touch Math. This app offers great practice and reinforcement of this method for counting and addition. The basic level is free. I can't remember if I paid a minimal amount for the upgrade.
Click HERE for more info on the TouchMath app
Finally, I use Ipad time as an incentive/reward for the boys doing their work with me. These are the apps I like to offer them- they are both fun but also educational. I also like these apps because they boys can explore them on their own without me having to be right there next to them. We do sometimes do an activity together from the apps, but it's always nice to find a way to keep them occupied so I can get something done around the house for a few minutes here and there throughout the day.
1. StarFall- we do pay the annual fee for this one. SOOO worth it! We use for math and reading.
2. PBS Kids Games
3. Khan Academy for Kids: Math, Reading, Logic
4. Kindergarten Math by Alligator Apps
5. Writing Wizard: Handwriting numbers, and upper and lower case letters
6. ABC Keyboard: beginning keyboarding
One more thing. Our boys LOVE to play with large blocks. They build things with them, but they also use them to throw around and hit to reenact action scenes from shows they watch.
We have had 2 sets of these blocks from Melissa and Doug which I love, but they do not hold up very long with the boys' rough play.
Click HERE for Amazon link to LARGE FOAM BLOCKS


























