NOT AS MANY SECONDS

The past few days I have noticed that Ben isn't requesting 2nd or 3rds as much at the table.  We are wondering if he is starting to trust that another meal will always be provided by us, and he doesn't have to "hoard" food at mealtime in case there isn't another meal coming.  

One of the constants at the orphanage was the 3 meals a day.  Perhaps Ben is realizing we are as reliable as the orphanage when it comes to food.  I am hoping my food is bit better tasting than the orphanage food- it never looked real appetizing to me...

When I think of life in the orphanage for Ben, I see living with us, his new family, has an improvement.  I have to remind myself that Ben may still be missing his old life- it was the only life he had ever known.  In my mind, he came to something better.  In his mind, he is just dealing with the fact that everything has changed for him.  In time, I pray the stress of that adjustment will lessen, and he will truly be happy with his new life.

Until then, we will keep proving to him that we are loving and worthy of his trust.  And food is one of those ways to communicate that- it's been said the way to a man's heart is through his stomach!