Overall I think the comparison game is one to stay away from. It usually ends in a feeling of inadequacy or not feeling content with what I have. This can happen when comparing material possessions, weight and looks, children, etc.
But sometimes, when dealing with some of the issues related to Down syndrome, its nice to come upon information that I can relate to. Its encouraging and makes me not feel like I am goofing things up too bad for our 2 little boys.
I have been following this particular mother's blog for a about a year. I have always had the impression she is a supermom because she does such amazing things for all her kids. One of her children has Down syndrome and is about the same age as our boys, and I have always felt very defeated when I would read about all the things she works on with her little girl. My attempts to work on things with our boys looked pretty feeble in comparison.
However, today I read a post of her's that I can really relate to. The mom talks about some of the struggles her little girl has and some of them I can relate to because they are the same as Jonah's struggles - easily frustrated, easily distracted, bothered by loud noises, potty training....
It was encouraging to read that this mother struggles with some of the same things as I do. I still think she is a far more impressive advocate and teacher to her little girl, but it made me realize that our kids are sometimes just going to be who they are despite all the things we try. Of course I am not saying it doesn't pay to help them along, but I don't want us parents to feel the pressure that what we do or don't do will be end of life as we know it. We can only do so much. Sometimes our kids will excel in certain areas, sometimes our kids will struggle in certain areas.
It was nice to read this post today, and it helped me understand my own kiddos better.
Here is the link to the blog post:
some of these things sound familiar
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