The reason this blog is called “His Pleasant Place” is because of Psalm 16: 5-6. It is our hearts’ desire that our home would be Ben/Ryan’s “pleasant place”.
Friday, October 3, 2025
TRANSPARENCY
Tuesday, September 30, 2025
DENTAL ADVENTURE
Ben had his 6mth dental appointment yesterday.
For the most part, Ben has always had great dentist appointments. He has no cavities. He has had some plague buildup at a checkup here or there over the years, but nothing that has happened consistently. The message I usually leave with at these appointments is that things look great, and we should continue with whatever we are doing.
But yesterday, Ben's teeth presented very differently. Ben had lots of plague buildup. The dentist also indicated that Ben has some bone loss in one area of his gums. This means the disease has progressed past the first stage (gingivitis).
The poor guy had to sit thru a 2 hour dental appointment. That's a lot of time poking and picking at his teeth, but Ben handled it like a champ! He wanted to have his hand held. So I held one hand, and his brother Jonah held his other hand to comfort him. It was very sweet.
Side note: I don't usually bring both boys to appointments. They can feed off each other and get a little obnoxious. Unknown to me, when I scheduled this appointment for Ben, I didn't realize there was no school for yesterday. So that is how I ended up having both goofballs at the dentist. To their credit, the boys did pretty good, especially considering we were there for 2 hours!
Now the plan for treating Ben's periodontal disease. Ben will need to have surgery under general anesthesia in order for the dentist to pull 3 baby teeth (blocking 2 adult teeth from coming down leading to a prime place for bacteria to gather) and to have scaling and planing (deep cleaning of the gum). Hopefully, this surgery will help rebuild the bone and tissue.
I'm guessing this would be too much for him to handle under local anesthesia which is why he will be put under.
So a few thoughts:
1. I'm very confused how Ben's teeth could have gotten this bad in the past 6 months. I confess we don't floss Ben's teeth, but we never have flossed, and as I mentioned earlier, he never had serious plague buildup. The dentist did explain this is probably the result of many factors besides just poor brushing: puberty, genetics, and Ben's hypothyroidism (can increase the risk of gum issues). So many pieces to this puzzle.
2. Since Ben came home to us in 2016, we have never had any big medical issue with him. Jonah has had 6 surgeries, but we have never had to go thru anything like this with Ben. Ben had his open heart surgery at 18 months when he was still in Lithuania. So that's comforting to know if he could handle major heart surgery, this dental surgery will probably not be a big deal for him. But it will just be weird to see Ben in this situation- it might be hard for him to be vulnerable, and I'm not sure if he will allow us to comfort him. He tends to get very independent when he is sick.
Now the funny part of this whole 2 hour adventure at the dentist. During the middle of all the scraping and picking on Ben's teeth, Jonah started talking about a loose tooth. I thought he was just making appropriate associations since we were indeed at the dentist. But then, Jonah was looking for something on the floor when he excitedly pointed to something: it was half a tooth. I looked inside his mouth, and sure enough, I could the the spot where something had just come loose.
Only Jonah would loose a tooth while waiting in the dentist office...that kid!
The dentist nicely checked things over for us (after Jonah got himself in a dental chair and put on a pair of dental sunglasses for the bright light). She wasn't worried that it was only half of a tooth- the other half had already come out, unknown to us.
I have a feeling between keeping the staff into their lunch hour, having to go thru the hoops of scheduling surgery for Dec 5th, and having Jonah as an "extra patient", that office was glad to see us go.
But truth is, I was glad to leave myself. Quite the adventure!
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DOWN SYNDROME AWARENESS WALK
Saturday, September 20, 2025
INDEPENDENCE TRIAL
Often we try to give the boys opportunities for independence.
Some successes we have are both take turns going in the bank and handing my transaction requests to the teller. Both take turns going into the barber for his haircut while I stay in the car with the other one. Ben goes in the library to return and check out items I have placed on hold.
It's excited to watch them be able to do these things without having someone right by them to guide and direct them.
However, sometimes our attempt at independence doesn't quite work.
This week at the beach, we told the boys to go ahead down the path to the beach while we unloaded the car in the parking lot.
Ben made it the beach successfully. Jonah was another story. Let me explain.
In the picture below, you can see there is ramp to the beach labeled #1. There is also a bridge that leads to the beach labeled #2. These are the choices for how to access beach from the path coming from the parking lot.
When we came up the path behind the boys, we found Jonah stuck in the area labeled #3. He was trying to get thru the brush, around the tree, and/or down the ledge to get to the beach. He was asking for help to get out.
Our obvious question to Jonah was "Why did you not take one of the two obvious choices to get to the beach?" His answer: he bumped his forehead and said, "Duh" and then giggled.
Independence: Not. Quite. There. Yet.
But Jonah sure has a fun time trying!
FALL CAMPING
BIRTHDAY WITH THE BEATLES
SCHOOL AND FOOTBALL
The boys started their freshman year! A few bumps in the road as they get use to a new building, some new teachers, and higher expectations being in high school. But I think they are finding their groove.

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